A Thanksgiving Like No Other

"It is good to give thanks to the Lord, to sing praises to the Most High.  It is good to proclaim your unfailing love in the morning, your faithfulness in the evening...You thrill me Lord, with all you have done for [us]!  I sing for joy because of what you have done."  Psalm 92:1-2,4

It is Thanksgiving Day, November 28th, 2013, and we are about to celebrate the most amazing Thanksgiving that our family has ever experienced.  God has done amazing things in and for our family in the last 2 1/2 years and to have this adoption journey culminate in a homecoming just 2 days before Thanksgiving is beyond anything we could've imagined.  Our hearts are full to overflowing with gratitude and joy for the blessings that God has showered upon us as we've brought Chelley and Naika home to finally make our family complete.  His unfailing love and His faithfulness are truly the song that we are proclaiming continuously as we ponder this amazing feeling of having our family all together for good.

If you haven't had the chance to watch the recording of our homecoming, I believe that you can still watch it at this link... http://bambuser.com/channel/davepearson366.  The consensus seems to be that it's important to have tissues handy as you watch it.


I'm sure many of you have been praying for us and wondering how these first couple of days have been going for us. Overall, our time together has been amazing and we couldn't have asked for a better couple of days.  Chelley and Naika fit right in and have already showed their sisters many glimpses of their true playful, silly, and sweet personalities.  We've gotten to hear them talk to each other and to us in their sing-song Creole and there have been many giggles and sweet smiles all around.  There have been some moments of sadness, as expected, but over all, it's gone so well.

By Tuesday afternoon, just a few hours after we got home, it was clear that Chelley and Annika are going to be perfect playmates for each other.  Since Chelley was described as one of the most easy-going and compliant children at the orphanage, I didn't anticipate her having an energy and playfulness level that can match Annika but sure enough, she does. On Tuesday afternoon, I was upstairs napping with Naika and when I woke up I wondered if we indeed had 10 children instead of 5 because of all the happy noises being made by Chelley and Annika as they played.  Yesterday, Chelley was a bit quieter and calmer, much to Annika's dismay, but I really do think they will be wonderful playmates, roommates, and sisters. :)

Maria spent most of Tuesday being at Naika's beck and call and earning herself a special place in Naika's heart in the process.  Naika would point to a toy and Maria would go get it.  All Naika needed were some of her best facial expressions and body language to tell Maria if she had the correct toy or not.  Amazing how much communication can take place that way!  Maria wasn't minding the servant role one bit as it allowed her to be close to the unbearable cuteness that she'd only seen in pictures for all this time.  By yesterday afternoon, Maria was able to hold Naika for short periods of time and has been able to plant many kisses and hugs on her youngest sister.

Livie has just enjoyed being in the mix of all the activity.  The first thing she said when we all got buckled into the car at the airport was "Naika, do you love me?"  Such sweetness!!  She is soooo excited to be a BIG sister.  She has done a good job of sharing and interacting with all of her sisters, without getting jealous (yet) of the attention being given to her newest sisters.  On Tuesday, she entertained all of us, including Grandma and Grandpa and Uncle Nowell, with her statement that Naika was a princess but she, Livie, was the queen, and we could come pay her a visit while she sat on her throne in the living room.  We were each allowed to kiss her one time, but Uncle Nowell found out that asking for more than one kiss went above and beyond the limits of propriety.  She has yet to really have a lot of concentrated activity with Chelley and Naika but interacts in smaller ways and seems to be doing well.

Yesterday, we tried to make sure that Annika and Naika had some time to play together and bond, as well as Chelley and Maria having some bonding time.  Matt and I are busy trying to make sure everyone is clothed and fed, and that each of our 5 sweet daughters feel our love and attention individually.  This is, after all, one of the main purposes of cocooning.  It requires intention and the ability to be attuned to the dynamics of multiple relationships and each girls' feelings.  Even just yesterday, I noted that this is part of what can become difficult and tiring as this process goes on.  Believe me, I'm not complaining AT ALL!!! Just recognizing the fact that the number of individual relationships in our family has grown exponentially in the last 2 days, and that we, as the Mama and Papa, are key figures in making sure that each relationship is healthy and growing in love.  Thankfully, we have the promise from God that He has called us to this new journey of parenting 5 daughters and that He will equip us with all that we need to continue to follow Him in obedience.  We know that apart from Him, we can do nothing, but that His love will flow through us and His wisdom is accessible to us when we ask Him for it.  We are counting on that in the days and weeks ahead.

As we continue with this transition, your prayers are still much appreciated for each of us individually and for our family as a whole.  I'll try to post updates as much as possible, but also need to focus my time and attention on these daughters that we've been blessed with.

Happy Thanksgiving from our family to yours.  I'll leave you with a few pictures of our time together over the last couple of days. :)

Watch our Homecoming Live!!!

Here is the promised link to our homecoming live stream as we bring Chelley and Naika home!!! We are scheduled to arrive at about 9:45 a.m. (central time) tomorrow (Tuesday). The feed may start before that time and we obviously don't have much control over the timeliness of our flight. Hope you can join us and share in our joy in this amazing way.

http://bambuser.com/channel/davepearson366

Sleepless in Haiti

OK, so sleepless in Haiti doesn't have quite the same ring to it as sleepless in Seattle, but for the last 2 nights I have tossed and turned for hours trying to sleep...all to no avail. Last night I was awake from 3:30 am on and now tonight, I awakened at midnight and then couldn't turn off my brain. Truth be told, I'm also really partial to my own bed and can't wait to be back in it! I'm thankful that our girls have slept very well so far and hope that will continue at the hotel tonight and when we get home.  Please pray that I will have supernatural stamina today to get through this monumental day on VERY little sleep and that we'll all be able to sleep well at the hotel tonight.

I finally decided to give up the fight to go back to sleep and just get up and use this opportunity to update everyone before we start the new whirlwind of travel and arriving home to our 3 precious biological daughters that are anxiously awaiting our arrival. The guest house is very full with families and volunteers, but right now, it is completely silent.  I'm sitting in front of the beautifully decorated and lit Christmas tree and its like I've got the place to myself. The good news is that I know for sure we won't over sleep since we have to all be up at 5 a.m.and ready to leave for the airport at 6 a.m..
For now, there are just so many BIG things to process, both from the events of yesterday, as well as the events of today as we prepare to travel home and Chelley and Naika begin the biggest transition of their lives. Even when they suffered the loss of their birth family, they still had the same culture, the same food, the same language and the same climate. Today is the day that all of that changes for them.

Yesterday was hard. Chelley started to really feel the weight of all that yesterday entailed and we had a difficult morning full of sadness, both before and after church. She doesn't know yet that she can trust us, or that we really love her like we say we do. So she doesn't always want to receive comfort from us, which makes her sadness even more difficult for all of us. She's also testing boundaries to see if the same rules apply in her new family as at GLA. As you can imagine, this makes for complicated parenting decisions as to the best way to handle each circumstance and situation, especially in light of the grief she is processing. Toss in very little sleep and our own overwhelming emotions to control and you've got quite a mix. I sent up countless prayers yesterday for wisdom as to how I could best show our love for her in each difficult moment. We know you are praying and we have felt your prayers. Please continue those prayers for each of our hearts and minds as we undergo the challenges of this day full of travel.

Yesterday also involved both girls getting a chance to say goodbye to their nannies and friends. Naika didn't show much emotion as she said goodbye to her 2 sweet nannies, Betty and Chantal. Those sweet ladies have taken care of her since she was a chubby little 6 month old. We owe them a debt of gratitude that we can never repay. It was easy to see their love for her as they said goodbye and we are definitely praying for ALL the nannies and other staff as they say goodbye to so many kids in such a short time.

We were thankful that it didn't seem upsetting to Naika to be in her nursery again and she also wasn't sad to leave with us. I took video and lots of pictures so that she can look at those as much as she wants or needs to in the weeks, months, and years to come. The other kids hollered out "orevwas" and "bye-byes" as we left the nursery. Such a monumental moment, even though Naika doesn't fully understand that yet.

After some time packing and playing at the guest house, it was time for the goodbyes at the Toddler House. They have a tradition of gathering all the kids and nannies together and they sing several praise songs in Creole. Then they have a special goodbye song that they sing to each child that is leaving with their forever family. Chelley and 2 other sweet little girls are all leaving from the Toddler House, so they sang the goodbye song to each of them. Then all of the kids come up and said goodbye to each child that is leaving.  All of the parents were doing our best to hold it together, but not really succeeding. All 3 girls were just quiet and serious. Such a heavy moment for such young children. I really felt like a dam of all kinds of emotions from the last few days was trying to break loose in me but I knew Chelley was watching me, so I couldn't let go. She has such a sensitive spirit and is very tuned in to the emotions of those around her. It is a gift that I'm sure God will use for beautiful purposes as she grows and matures.

After a few minutes of goodbyes, we took Chelley's hands and walked out the door of the Toddler House for the last time. She asked Papa to carry her up the hill to the guest house and the rest of the afternoon was spent playing with all the kiddos here while Mama and Papa tried to pack.

One of the many highlights of this trip has been getting to see our girls' silly personalities come out as they begin to feel more comfortable with us. When we were here in May, neither one of them said much at all. Last night, we couldn't get them to stop talking. We have loved being able to be here with all of these other families so that we can see the way all the kids interact and play together. We love to hear them chattering away in Creole and laughing together. We saw more of Chelley's playful side last time, but this time we've gotten to see Naika come out of her shell as never before. She definitely has the spunk that we thought was hiding behind those mischievous grins and she will be giving her sisters a run for their money very soon!!

It has also been a joy to watch Chelley and Naika interact as sisters. Even though they haven't had a lot of time together, they know each other and were playing and being silly together quite a bit yesterday. My favorite was Chelley saying words in English and Creole and asking Naika to repeat them...so cute!!! I think they will be a comfort to each other in this transition and I'm thankful for that.

Well, that's all for now. It's almost time for the rest of the families to wake up and begin the first steps of this life-changing day. I'll try to post a brief update when we arrive in Chicago tonight. I will also include the link to the live stream of our homecoming that will be happening tomorrow (Tuesday, the 26th) at about 9:45 a.m.  So, if you want to try to catch that, be sure to check back here later tonight.

Thank you for reading, for caring, for loving, and most of all, for praying for ALL of us. Orevwa from Haiti.

Anwered Prayers

Where do I even begin?  Our time here has been so amazing, so precious, so perfect...it's almost impossible to take it all in.  So, I guess I begin where we should always begin...in giving praise and thanks to our loving and sovereign Lord for every blessing of these last few days.  God's love, care, and blessings for our family over the last few days have been so plentiful that I feel like I'm standing under a waterfall with a small paper cup, trying to catch and store up as much as I can.  Thank you, Lord, for answering the prayers of our hearts and the prayers of so many for smooth travel, precious bonding time, sleep and health for everyone...and so many more.

For those of you that have been following our blog as the main means of updating and are not on facebook, I apologize that this is the first you are hearing from me on this trip.  I know many of you have been praying and wondering and hoping and loving from afar and have been anxious to hear word of how it has gone.  As you can imagine, my time and arms have been full, as they should be, and it is a lot faster to put a few pictures on facebook than to write a blog post.  I don't have time for a lengthy update right now either but something is better than nothing, right?

These last days have been so full of amazing moments and unforgettable experiences and I have so many thoughts and emotions rumbling around in my head and heart.  For now, I'll have to just give you the short version. :)

Our travel on Thursday and Friday all went very smoothly.  Two of the couples that we were traveling with barely made it out of the snowstorm in Denver and we are so thankful that they didn't miss any flights and escaped the snow just in time to make it without any delays.  We all connected in Miami on Thursday night and had a wonderful time celebrating before heading to bed for our abbreviated night's sleep.  We were at the airport by 4:30 am on Friday, running on pure adrenaline.  By 9:30 am (Eastern time), we were on the ground in Port au Prince, ready for the drive up the mountain. 

GLA was smart and had sent one vehicle just for all of our luggage and one vehicle for all of us parents.  Note to self, if I ever have another "Gotcha" day, it's definitely a day to wear my hair up in a hairdo that cannot get wind blown.  This would be just in case the ride up the mountain is in the back of an open air pick up truck surrounded by a tall cage...hypothetically speaking, of course!!  Seriously, my hair looked OK at 4 am in Miami, but by the time we got to GLA and we were getting ready to take all these pictures of these unforgettable, life-changing moments, my hair looked like I'd been in a tornado.  :)  But, I guess if that's the only thing I have to complain about from this trip so far, I'm doing pretty good.

We were taken first to the Main House where Naika was waiting for us and we had our first "gotcha" moment with just her.  She did fine at first and let us hug and hold her. Then for a few minutes, it was as if the weight of this big change was pressing on her little heart and she was so very sad.  Once we took her downstairs and prepared to make our way up to the Guest House where Chelley was waiting, she got distracted and has been fine ever since.  She obviously sticks pretty close to one of us, me in particular, but has been content and peaceful since those first moments.

Chelley was waiting for us at the Guest House and our reunion with her was so full of smiles and joy for all of us.  Molly and Joyce, the amazing young women who run the Toddler House, told us that Chelley was sooooo excited and had been bragging to all her friends that morning that we were coming.  Her classmates had walked in to go to school just before we came and she was sure to tell them that her Mama and Papa were coming soon!  Both the girls were dressed so beautifully, with their hair all done in this beautiful beaded hairdo that I won't be able to replicate for at least 10 years. :)

The rest of Friday was quiet.  We just spent the day together at the Guest House, playing with each other and with the other families and kids that are staying here.  We dropped off our 150 lbs of donations and the staff were THRILLED to have received so many things that they really were needing desperately.  The highlight of my afternoon on Friday was getting to hold Naika as she slept on me for an hour and a half.  We hadn't even gotten to see her sleep when we were here last time so this precious moment for me to get to hold her while she slept on me was beyond description. 

Yesterday was a little busier.  We spent the morning at the Guest House and waited for another family to arrive from Canada to pick up and bring home their children.  That brings the count to FIVE families here right now, preparing to bring home SEVEN precious children that will now be with their forever families.  Praise God!!!  Once this other family arrived, we all piled into several vehicles and headed farther up the mountain.  Our first stop was the Baptist Haiti Mission, where we had lunch in a beautiful cafe with open air windows overlooking the mountain, and got to do some shopping and bartering for beautiful Haitian handmade crafts and artwork.  That was FUN!!  This mission also had a playground where the kids could play, as well as a little petting zoo.  After that, we all headed up to Ft. Jacques, which is the site where GLA is building with the hopes that they can at least move the older kids up there soon.  Eventually, this will be where all of GLA is located.  It is a gorgeous location with an amazing view of Port au Prince, the ocean, and the Northern mountains of Haiti in the distance.  It was so fun to see this beautiful location and imagine the kids having so much more space to run and play. 

Last night was amazing as we got to experience "Cinema Night" at the Toddler House with all of the older kids.  It was truly magical to get to sit outside with all those sweet kids, the courtyard lit only by all the beautiful Christmas lights and the giant movie screen.  The weather was perfect, snacks were enjoyed, kids were excited to see Chelley's Mama and Papa, and it was just the perfect way to end that full and unforgettable day.  Naika even stayed awake for the whole movie but then went easily to bed when we got back to our room.  Both girls have slept really well.  Naika likes to fall asleep on me but after 15 minutes, I can move her to the pack and play and she sleeps all night.  Another answer to prayer!!

This morning, we'll be heading down to the Main House for church and lunch and for Naika to get to say goodbye to her nannies, her nursery, and her friends.  Then this afternoon, we'll go back to the Toddler House where all the kids will gather to sing the goodbye song to Chelley and the 2 other girls that are going home from the Toddler House. I really haven't cried at all on this trip so far, but I have a feeling that today will be the day! After the goodbyes, it's time to get packed up and prepare for our early morning departure tomorrow morning.  Please keep us in your prayers, especially Chelley and Naika, as we travel tomorrow.

Thank you for all the prayers that you have been praying on our behalf so far.  We have felt them and appreciate them so much!!  I was going to try to upload some pictures but my phone and the computer don't want to talk to each other so I'll have to share those later.  At least I ended up having plenty to share in this "abbreviated" blog post.  You know me, never at a loss for words! :)  Please pardon any typos or sentences that don't make sense as I don't have time now to go back and proofread.  Will try to share more as soon as time allows.

The Moment We've Been Waiting For

Words fail me as I try to capture the depth of this moment.  We are finally here.  We are packed and ready.  We've researched agencies and countries, filled out MOUNTAINS of paperwork, read adoption books, and been overwhelmed by both joy and fear at different times in this process.  We've fundraised and worked ourselves to exhaustion with garage sales, bake sales, open houses...you name it.  We've loved these girls for more than 14 months...since the first moment we saw their faces on our computer screen on September 10, 2012.  We've looked longingly at pictures and prayed for quick resolution of paperwork and governmental red tape.  We've laughed and cried, and then cried some more when the waiting became unbearable.  We've trusted and doubted and trusted again.  We've made amazing new friends that we'll treasure for the rest of our lives.  We've received blessings upon blessings from the generous and loving hand of our faithful God as He has delighted to shower us with good gifts from above.  We've hugged and kissed and played with our Haitian daughters...and then said goodbye with broken hearts and tears streaming down our faces.  We've painted rooms and rearranged furniture.  We've organized clothes for 5 girls and purchased new toys.  We've waited...and waited...and waited.  Sometimes, we've waited well....other times, we've thrown a tantrum or ten.  We've prayed.  We've imagined.  We've cleaned and organized.  We've researched natural hair and tried to learn some Creole.  We've learned important lessons about trust, surrender, the Sovereignty of God, and the road of obedience that He calls us to.  Has it been easy?  No.  Has it been worth it? Yes!!

And now, all of those experiences culminate in one single day...one average Thursday morning in Minnesota in November.  And before you know it, we're in Miami, and then in Haiti, and then these girls we've loved and longed for for so long are finally in our arms for good.  We will be their forever family and they will finally be in our life and our home in the same way that they've been in our hearts for so long.  And then, next week, 2 days before Thanksgiving...we'll bring these girls home!  They will meet their new sisters...who are already bursting with excitement to meet and hug and love and play with them.  And finally, for the first time EVER, our entire family will be in one place...together.  Priceless.  Precious.  And oh sooooooo worth it!!

There is a song that has resonated with me as it relates to our adoption process for months now.  This song is full of powerful truth and I know it resonates with so many people for different circumstances.  But this week especially, it's my theme song.  It's my soundtrack.  I've already been planning for months that it would be the final song in the slideshow that will be created of our family together as we finally bring Chelley and Naika home.  This song applies perfectly both as we look back to where we've been and as we look ahead to the brand new adventure that awaits us.  It's no coincidence that this week at Calvary, Maria and Annika and my fellow Worship Chorale and Worship Team members will be singing this song in worship, while we are in Haiti...worshiping in Creole and preparing to bring our newest daughters home.  The song is Never Once by Matt Redman. 
Here are the lyrics...

Verse 1

Standing on this mountaintop 

Looking just how far we've come 

Knowing that for every step 

You were with us 

Verse 2

Kneeling on this battle ground 

Seeing just how much You've done 

Knowing every victory 

Is Your power in us 

Pre-Chorus

Scars and struggles on the way 

But with joy our hearts can say 

Yes, our hearts can say 

Chorus 1

Never once did we ever walk alone 

Never once did You leave us on our own 

You are faithful, God, You are faithful 

Bridge

Scars and struggles on the way 

But with joy our hearts can say 

Never once did we ever walk alone 

Carried by Your constant grace 

Held within Your perfect peace 

Never once, no, we never walk alone 

Ending Chorus

Never once did we ever walk alone 

Never once did You leave us on our own 

You are faithful, God, You are faithful 

Every step we are breathing in Your grace 

Evermore we'll be breathing out Your praise 

You are faithful, God, You are faithful 

You are faithful, God, You are faithful

If you haven't heard this song...you need to hear it.  You will be blessed as you remember that our God...He is ALWAYS FAITHFUL!!  

 

You tube link to Never Once: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hxFyX29pZnI

 

Thank you for praying for us, crying with us, listening to us, loving us, supporting us, and walking alongside us on this long journey.  We look forward to sharing each new step of this adventure with you, and we covet your prayers for all of us as we go to Haiti to bring our babies home.

A New Perspective...the upcoming transitions through the eyes of Chelley and Naika

(I apologize in advance for the length of this post.  I thought about trying to break it up into a series but decided that since we leave in just 3 days, I'd leave it all as one post and if you need to read it in shorter segments, that's just fine.  I do implore you to ultimately read all of this post though as it has important information about what these next steps will look like and how you can best interact with Chelley and Naika as they come home....)

It has been such a joy to celebrate with so many of you this past week as we anticipate our reunion with Chelley and Naika in just a few short days!!!  We are bursting with excitement and I know from all the smiles and hugs at church, and all of the ecstatic facebook comments that you all are sharing our excitement that the end of this long journey is finally here.  We are rejoicing in knowing that our family will FINALLY be all together, just in time for Thanksgiving, Naika's 3rd birthday, Christmas, and then Chelley's 8th birthday!

As we rejoice and look forward to these amazing and life-changing days ahead, I'd like to invite you to look at this process and these upcoming changes from a different perspective...that of Chelley and Naika.  Even though you have walked through this journey with us and the focus has been on our experience of waiting, fundraising, longing and waiting some more, now is the time for you to join us in shifting our focus to Chelley and Naika...their needs, their experiences, and what will help them to thrive as they transition into life as a part of the Saski family.  In the days and weeks ahead, you can best support Matt and I (as well as Maria, Annika, and Olivia) by helping us to do what is best for Chelley and Naika.

First, it's important to try to put ourselves in their shoes for a while.  Even though we know that having a forever family is better for them long-term than growing up in an orphanage, they are about to leave the place that they have called home for the last 2 1/2 years.  They already experienced profound loss at a very young age when they had to leave their home and their birth family as a result of tragedy and poverty.  Now, they've adjusted to life at GLA and they have a new family...their nannies, their friends, their teachers, and the amazing staff who run GLA.  Once again, they are being asked to leave those they love, to leave what is comfortable and predictable and safe, and to go to a completely different country, culture, and climate where NOTHING will be the same.  They will need to say goodbye to friends and caregivers that they may never see again.  They will be overwhelmed even while we are still in Haiti, simply because we will be taking them out of their routine and beyond the walls of the orphanage into places and experiences that are completely new to them.

Chelley, at the age of 7, has the benefit of understanding at least some of the changes that are coming her way.  The older kids at GLA all really want to be adopted and have their own forever family and they know that is something to celebrate.  And yet, she still has so much to lose as she makes this transition.  And Naika, at almost 3 years old, doesn't have the same benefit of cognitively understanding or preparing for any of the changes that she will experience.  Chelley has memories tucked away of what it is like to live in a family with a mama and papa and sisters.  Naika was 6 months old when she arrived at GLA and her nannies and the other kiddos there have been the only family that she has known (except for the memories that are stored deep in her body and spirit of her first few months with her birth family).  

As we leave the orphanage with them on Monday the 25th and begin our journey back to Minnesota, they will have countless new and overwhelming experiences in just a few short hours.  The sights, sounds, and smells of the airport, the noises and sensations involved in flying in an airplane, escalators, food, carpet, stores, crowds, multiple languages, another flight, a hotel room, and more white people than they've ever seen in their lives...all in the first 12 hours.  Then, as we arrive home on Tuesday the 26th, they will be meeting "strangers" that they've only seen in pictures that are their new sisters and grandparents.  They will experience winter coats, mittens, hats, and REAL cold for the first time.  Car seats, highways, and a completely different landscape will greet them even before they set foot in our home.  When they do get "home", everything will look, sound, smell, feel, and taste different.  NOTHING will feel predictable or comfortable or safe or familiar.  And every last step of these huge changes is out of their control.  The process of learning to trust Matt and I as their parents will take a very long time and yet they will need to trust us because they have no control over any of these major life-changing transitions. 

I don't know about you but I like to be in control.  I don't enjoy situations where my personal well-being is in question and I have zero control in making myself healthier, safer, or more comfortable.  So much of this adoption journey has been out of our control and there were so many days that I longed (or even begged) for a bit of control over these circumstances that would bring about so much change in our lives.  Fortunately, I knew that there was a perfectly loving and strong God that was in control of our situation.  Chelley and Naika do not KNOW from experience that they can trust us.  They will hope that we are good and loving and trustworthy, and we will do our best to show them that we will love and care for them and never leave them, but they will still be asked to place their precious little lives in our hands before we've had a chance to prove that to them over and over.

So, as we arrive home on that Tuesday, the 26th, their sisters and grandparents will be bursting at the seams to finally meet them, we will be filled with joy and gratitude to finally have our family all in one place, and while a part of them may be excited and happy, they will also be processing deep levels of grief, overwhelm, and fear that the rest of us can only imagine.  It will definitely be a day to celebrate and praise God for finally bringing these girls home, but it will be good for all of us to keep the perspective in mind that while joyful, this will not be an easy day for our sweet Haitian girls.

So, what is the plan to help them as they work through these changes?  What will our family life look like for the foreseeable future?  First of all, let me share that there will be a way to share in that moment of our homecoming as all of our girls meet each other for the very first time.  We will be having a small airport party, to which we are inviting our immediate family and a few close friends.  If this were about Matt and I, we would invite every single person who has walked this journey with us...praying, rejoicing, crying, encouraging, and working hard along with us.  We know and appreciate that there are sooooo many of you that have invested in this process and we thank you for all of your support!  However, as we've just established, this day is about what is best for Chelley and Naika...not about what is best for us.  So, we had to make some tough decisions and we don't get to invite all of our wonderful friends to be at the airport in person to welcome us home.  However, we have another great option that will allow as many of you as possible to participate in that day.  We will be live streaming our homecoming on the internet.  Our friend Dave Pearson has graciously agreed to be there filming all the events of that morning so that you can watch it all from the comfort of your living room or office.  I'll be sharing the link to that live feed on this blog and on facebook so be watching for that!

After the small celebration at the airport, we will go home with just our family (and my Mom and Dad), and close ranks for a while.  In the adoption world, this is called cocooning.  We need to give Chelley and Naika the benefit of a significant period of time where their world is as small and predictable as possible.  They need time to get to know Matt and I and their new sisters, and to start to feel comfortable and safe in their new home.  We will stay home as much as possible,only going to the doctor's office and any other places that are absolutely necessary.  Matt and I will be Chelley and Naika's only caregivers and will be the only ones to meet their needs.  We will be the only ones to hold them for a while (with the possible exception of their sisters and Grandma and Grandpa...who will be next in line, anxiously awaiting their turn).  We will prove to them minute by minute, day by day, that we are their Mama and Papa, that we love them, that we will take care of all of their needs, that we are safe and trustworthy, and that we will ALWAYS be here for them.  In the adoption world, this is called "attachment" and this is crucial to their long term health and ability to develop close relationships with others in the future.  Once they start to feel more comfortable with us, we can begin to take them on an occasional outing...maybe a quick trip to a small store, or a visit to Grandma and Grandpa's house.  When we feel the time is right, we will invite some friends into our home one by one to meet them in a place where they feel comfortable and safe.  We don't know exactly how long this whole cocooning process will take and will just need to play it by ear depending on how Chelley and Naika are doing.

We do not plan on being at church as a family for a while, although that will be very difficult for me as all these Advent and Christmas services take place throughout December.  Can I ask a favor?  If we feel that Chelley and Naika are doing well enough and we decide to come sit in the back of one of these upcoming Advent services, would you do your best to resist the urge to come and welcome us and speak to them?  A simple wave and a smile would be the best thing you can do for all of us.  It seems rude and counter-intuitive to our "Minnesota nice" but our first few visits to church will be far less overwhelming for them if we don't attract a large crowd of people that are anxious to see and welcome and love on them.  I know that's hard, because you're all so excited along with us.  But once again, I ask you to put yourself in their shoes.  I never want to hurt anyone's feelings or cause any of you to feel badly but our first priority needs to be protecting these girls from situations that will be overwhelming and scary for them.  Even though you know them and have seen countless pictures and prayed for them for well over a year, they will be in a room full of strangers who look different and speak a different language and it will be much easier for them if they can take it all in without having to interact with a lot of people.  Sometimes, newly adopted children can feel that anyone who even makes eye contact with them in a new situation is going to take them away to another home.  I also need to ask that when we do come to church as a family, please don't hug them or touch their hair. They are beautiful and will be nearly irresistible to hug or touch, but just like we wouldn't enjoy  strangers hugging us or touching our hair in the grocery store, they will not want people that they don't know to touch them without permission.  If you are unsure as to the best way to interact with them, please feel free to ask.  When in doubt, smiles, waves, and kind words will go a long ways towards ultimately making them feel comfortable.

Eventually there will come a day when they will feel comfortable and you won't need to feel that you are walking on eggshells.  All of this will just take time and will be a learning process for every one of us.  The Saskis are a family full of extroverts and this process of turning inward for a while will not be easy for us either.  Maria, Annika, and Livie will still be attending most of their various activities and are allowed to take breaks from the "cocoon" more so than Matt and I, but their lives are changing drastically as well.  They will not be able to have friends over for a while, and they will be learning to share Matt and I with their new sisters who will need a good portion of our time and hands-on attention for a while.  All 7 of us will be sacrificing things that are important and valuable to us so that we can emerge on the other end of this as a new and whole family.  We covet your prayers, your encouragement, and your practical help during this time.  In my next blog post, I'll be sharing some ways that you can encourage and help us as we work through this transition. 

For now, thank you for reading this LONG post and for your understanding of how difficult this process will be for our newest daughters.  Thank you in advance for giving us grace when we stumble as we navigate this uncharted territory for our family.  We love you and are so grateful for the support and love you have shown us over the last 2 1/2 years and the love and support that you will now show us in new and different ways as we bring our precious Chelley and Naika home.

IT'S REALLY HAPPENING!!

We filled out our very first piece of paper to start this adoption process in June of 2011.  That same month our girls were brought to an orphanage thousands of miles away, in the beautiful country of Haiti.  We didn't know who they were yet, but God did.  He had called us to this adoption process and we stepped out in faith.  We had NO IDEA what all this process would entail, or how long it would take, but God did.  He had every step, every detail, in His hands, all throughout this very long and often arduous journey.

Today, November 12, 2013...the very last step, the very last paperwork necessary for our girls to be able to come home was completed successfully.  In just a couple of days, our orphanage will pick up the Visas that will allow our girls to become legally ours according to the US government.  Then they will pick up our IBESR exit letter and we will have everything we need to finally bring them home.

God has been faithful every moment of every day, even when we lost faith or doubted His plan.  This is really just the beginning of his plan for Chelley and Naika to be part of our family.  We all have major, life-changing, and often difficult transitions ahead of us.  I will be blogging more about that in the days before we leave to pick them up.  For now, we are rejoicing that we are finally able to count the days until our girls will be in our arms and in our family forever!!

Today was one of the most stressful days of our adoption process thus far...which is saying a lot!!  Trusting God is a lesson to learn over and over each day, or each hour, or each minute and even though He is faithful in all he does, it was hard for me to rest in that today as we waited to hear the results of this final step.

Finally, at 12:40 pm, we received word from our orphanage that their Visa appts were successful and that we could come to pick up our girls NEXT WEEK...Fri., Nov. 22nd through Mon. Nov. 25th!!!! We will leave Rochester on Thurs., the 21st and get as far as Miami that night.  We'll get to spend the night in Miami celebrating with the 3 other families that will be traveling with us to pick up their sweet kids from GLA as well.  This will be such a blessing and is a huge answer to prayer that we will be able to experience this with these other families that have become so dear to us over the last several months.  Then we fly from Miami to Port au Prince early in the morning on Fri, the 22nd.  By 10:30 am Eastern time, we should be holding our girls in our arms!!!  And this time we won't have to say goodbye!! 

We will get to do some shopping at a local market and get to tour the new building site for GLA about 40 minutes farther up in the mountains.   We will get to go to church with our kids at GLA and will have time for them to say goodbye to their nannies and friends and vice-versa.  It will be a whirlwind trip, an emotional roller coaster, and a monumental life change all rolled into one weekend!!  Then on Monday, the 25th, we will leave GLA, fly from Port au Prince to Miami and then on to Chicago.  We will stay in Chicago that evening and then fly home to Rochester in the morning on Tues., the 26th.  For those of you who are counting, this is 2 days before Thanksgiving, and 6 days before Naika's 3rd birthday.  We are thanking God for hearing the prayers of our heart to allow us to spend Naika's birthday with her!!  And we are amazed that we'll be celebrating one of the most meaningful Thanksgivings ever with our entire family whole and together.  God truly does delight in giving His children the most amazing and precious gifts!!

There are so many more details I could share right now and so many important things that need to be shared about our upcoming transition.  I promise I will be sharing more posts in the next 9 days that will help you know how to be praying for us and for ALL of our girls, as well as ways that you can be helpful as we navigate these major changes in our life and family.  For now, thank you, from the bottom of our hearts for walking with us on this journey and for sharing in our joy as we close one chapter and prepare to begin a brand new adventure.